In most cases it is not what is stopping you but who is stopping you, and that is normally you! Circumstances and situations do play a part, but usually the root cause is you.
When we get down to the roadblocks that stop people from pursuing their passion, taking advantage of their opportunities, tapping into their potential or achieving their possibilities, it is normally a conversation that starts with ‘too’. You can fill in the rest … too hard, too busy, too long, too short, too much, too little, too easy, too many, too focused too big, too small …
What is it for you?
THINK ABOUT A GOAL YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE THAT YOU HAVE REPEATEDLY PUT OFF. WHAT ‘TOO’ EXCUSE ARE YOU USING?
The way to rid the ‘too’ from your life is to identify a bigger reason why, then forget about completing the goal and start focusing on taking the first step! Remember, the day you take the first step the task is 50 per cent completed. This relates to our self-belief, self-esteem and self-confidence.
It comes down to the conversation you have with yourself when you set a goal, or pursue a different path, and that conversation normally revolves around three questions:
- Am I worthy and deserving? Am I worthy of this success, the recognition I will receive from friends or family if I achieve the goal? Do I deserve this result?
- Am I capable? Do I have the skills, knowledge, and abilities to achieve this goal? What if I try and fail—could I recover with some dignity? What else would I need to learn?
- Is it possible? I know it’s possible for other people to achieve this type of goal, but with my track record, can I? Is it possible in the timeframe or would I need superhuman effort to achieve it?
The answer is yes! Yes you can, but unfortunately my answer doesn’t count.
You need to have a level of confidence that will see you to the point of starting. You just need enough confidence to start taking action towards achieving the goal, because your confidence will grow when each of these actions and activities are completed.