Why 63 days?
Well it takes 21 days to introduce a new habit—not to replace a habit, which is often talked about in personal growth books. I call this stage combative, as you are still battling with the habit you are trying to replace.
The next 21 days is a stage I call cohesion, where the two habits co-exist; it is still a struggle but not a battle. The old habit is waiting for you to become vulnerable or your resolve to weaken so it can gain the upper hand.
Then the final 21 days is a stage I call conquering; this is where your new habit takes over totally. You become very consistent with it, it’s now too uncomfortable to even do the old habit and feels like something is missing in your life if you don’t do the new habit.
Now the secret here is not to try and change too many things at once, as creating a new habit takes intention and attention. So just pick one new habit, ritual or routine you want to introduce into your life. Don’t look for perfection, just turn up every day and do it. Now when I say turn up, I mean turn up! Often people set a new habit to exercise for 45 minutes daily, but the habit needs to be a little broader. The goal is to start to exercise daily. So it could be 5 minutes or 10 minutes or 20 minutes.
DON’T LOOK FOR PERFECTION, JUST TURN UP EVERY DAY AND DO IT!
Don’t pursue excellence initially, pursue consistency.
